Yes, in essence we are in very similar situations.

My feelings for her are not maternal at all - they very much feel like a yearning to be together romantically. Also, she looks a lot like the women I have been attracted to in the past, so I have a lot of sexual fantasies about her (this, I would never mention).

Part of me knows that if I were able to lay all this out in the open and she artfully managed to be warm and accepting it would have a great potential to heal. However, if she terminates or has a negative reaction or becomes more withdrawn/distance, I know this has the potential to be incredibly damaging.

She's very dedicated to her profession and to our therapy, but I know that she can't "process transference" (whatever that means) since she was not trained in it.

In session she asked me if I was disappointed that she couldn't help me with psychodynamic issues, I told her that in truth, I was angry because I thought she could read a book, get training, get consultation from a colleague and give it a shot (I know I sounded entitled and like I'm demanding a lot - but I was honest). She said that she will do what she can to help me (so perhaps she will think my suggestions over). That made me feel reassured...but still, it's outside her comfort zone and practicing withing her scope of competence is very important to her.

If you are able to open up to your therapist - I wish you best of luck and I hope it's a healing experience.