I think we as survivors are so strong. We often don't see it. I feel total hatred for the enabler in my life! My mother looked the other way when I told her about Grandpa getting a little too sexually inappropriate. She enabled my dad and his alcoholism. She tried to help my brother who ended up taking his life...all because she could do it all without the help of anybody or anything. She still blames me...I am the "crazy" one and I'm NOT an alcoholic! According to her I am mad at the world. I've told her I'm angry at her and she doesn't get it. There's more, but bottom line is that she just doesn't get it. My own daughters don't much like her. She talks sexually inappropriately to them and they see right through her. And she wonders why I cannot stand her!

That's my saga...I think we all must find our own way whatever that may be. Hang in there...HUGS...