Anyone use MS Lync at the office? It knows your status based on your calendar, so shows you as available if you've got nothing scheduled, or 'in a meeting,' etc. You also have the option of setting it to do not disturb, which prevents incoming texts or phone calls. There is a contact list that develops, based on frequency of contact with a person.

The contact list sits in the background and I don't give it a moment's thought. I have no desire to ping anyone unless it's to gossip about my horrible boss . That is, unless I see the do not disturb. Then, ALL I can think of is pinging them...whatcha doing? Busy? Gotta deadline? Want some help? and a bunch of annoying stuff.

It's exactly the same for me with T. I don't routinely think of calling after hours and we don't email or text. Let her mention that she'll be unavailable for any length of time and I become a teenager obsessing on a crush. I start making up reasons why I wanted to call. Imagined slights or suspicious dreams. Blah, blah, blah.

In the end, I don't do anything about my ruminations. I never even remember to discuss it. But I did want to assure you, Blessed, that you are not alone in this annoying issue.