Oh my... I am sorry folks. Reading over what I had written, it looks like I was still feeling the sting of my son's bite. Maybe he has a reason to be angry at me. Geesh, today is Saturday and it is supost to be Friday. I did not know it was Saturday that is until I turned on the TV this morning to watch Regis and Kelly and I couldn't find the show. So I just thought maybe they took a vacation lol.. seems I am the one that took a mental vacation as I lost one day this week. I can account for every day which to means today is Friday. But I am wrong. It is Saturday. I lost a day somewhere. God, I fight for my sanity and this happens again... grrr at me

ok . let me go back.. I don't foot the bill for my son's education. His father paid the first few years. He now has student loans which means he will be paying for his education when he graduates.

ok.. My son works part time in the computer lab at the university. He also tutors folks for $20 an hour. And his father does give him electronics from his pawn shop to sell. So my son does pay for his car insurance and clothing and personal things. He has a credit card which he is responsible to make payments, which he does. In other words, I do not support him financially.

ok...hmm, I may have jumped in this thread without thinking. My son has an anger problem. When he gets angry he vents it at me and says the most horrible things to me. I feel when he does this he is being disrespectful. Actually he is.

ok.. When I was married to his father, he did see his father verbally abusing me many times. When he was 8 years old he even jumped on his father's back to get his father off of me, because his father was attacking me. So, he did learn and see that I crumble under other peoples extreme anger. So he did learn this behavior. I guess it is partly my fault, as I fall apart when someone becomes potentially violent towards me or expresses extreme anger towards me. I would fight back sometimes with his father, but his father is stronger physically than me, so it was a no win situation..

I agree with pat and everyone that says my son's behavior, if tolerated and not changed will affect his future wife, children, and job. I don't accept how he gets when he is angry and he knows it. And my son also knows his anger gets out of control. I can't change my son. My son has to be responsible for controlling his anger and/or needs to take anger management classes.

I prob rattled on and am feeling rather tired. I hope I have made some kind of sense. I am sorry if I spoke out of line to anyone. I need to learn to express myself more clearly

huggs to all
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