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Jun 27, 2015, 04:44 AM
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Member Since: Sep 2014
Location: UK
Posts: 394
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Originally Posted by growlycat
Does your T have hard boundaries (in your opinion).
Have they helped your therapy or hurt it? I am trying to look objectively at my CBT therapy. I know from past experience that harsh boundaries are not something I work with well. In fact, past therapy has fallen apart because of it. Everyone needs some kind of boundaries to keep therapy safe. ?How much is too much?
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I am much like you, but thankfully my T is willing to be flexible so long as he doesn't think it will be harmful. We have a lot of physical contact in session, but it's been made perfectly clear that inappropriate touching would not be permitted. So there are some boundaries that are fixed to preserve the working relationship, but others that we can experiment a little with. I think it all comes down to the individual client and T. My first CBT guy was very prim and proper and if I had asked him to sit on the floor with me (physical issue makes this more comfortable than chairs) he would definitely said, no, we are grown ups. So his were very fixed, to the point that caused minor harm to me, and destroyed any hope of a working relationship. Likewise I have a friend also in therapy, and when I told him about a session where me and T held hands, he freaked out. For him this would have been totally creepy, but for me, it was perfectly appropriate in that moment. So again, my way of being is taken into consideration with boundaries.
You should talk openly with your T and see if some middle ground can be met to make things more comfortable for you, but whilst still protecting you, your T, and the working relationship.
Good luck x
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