My former pdoc has an answering service. I would assume it was the answering service picking up because it rang too long or the line was busy or the t had it set for them to pick up. I wouldnt automatically assume that the young man who answered my pdocs phone was his young lover! Not answering your questions about her vacations is another matter. I wouldnt say you are being disrespected by your t; i would say it is raising questions about disrespect in the transference.