I get why you'd be hurt, but you've also got to keep in mind that if your therapist lets you rely on her too much it's to your detriment. The reality is she can't really be there for you at all times. As far as vacations, what if she did keep in touch but resented you for it? Would that be a fair trade off? I'm not saying I don't get wanting, even "needing" that contact though. I really did (and also didn't) want to bother my therapist on his vacations. I finally decided to ask him to text me one pic of wherever he was at, I figured that would be quick and easy for him but also allow me to feel connected. I asked him to do this and he agreed, after not contacting him the whole time (which was a matter of pride for me) he finally did text me a pic of the beach on his last day. Maybe you can ask her to do this?