I would hope you could begin/continue to model proper anger management to him, even as he struggles with it. </font><blockquote><div id="quote"><font class="small">Quote:</font>
Is it time I tell him take your garage full of crap and move it out?

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> To me, this is not a good model of behavior you wish from your son.

Does the stuff in the garage irk you that much? Then help him come to grips with either he has to put up with it where he lives, has to sell it, or just plain has to throw it out. No upset required. Here are the facts, son, make the decision. You could give him a deadline. If he doesn't meet it, throw the stuff out. No anger, no emotion, just is.

But I think that is a smaller issue here.

Why not both of you go to anger management together? Even if he doesn't go, the class, realizing you were supposed to be there together, will be of great support for you with additional ideas.

We do teach ppl how to treat us. It's often unconscious and usually inadvertent. We usually think we are just doing the best we can (and that may be true) however, others learn by watching us. Sad truth sometimes.

But that doesn't mean that is how you want him to treat you. And you have every right to ask him to respect you now.
He may not be able to fully understand or act correctly yet, at his young age. Be consistent with your own self, and that will help him learn and come around to a good relationship.

TC