Thanks for your reply. I will definitely look through past posts about this. I'm sure I will find some great stuff.

It's true. I do need to let go of the anger I feel. It's definitely harder than I thought it would be though. He actually showed up at my house today...a brief visit that was going okay, until he began saying things to try to frighten my child. When I told him to stop, he lit into my husband and I, telling us how awful we are to him etc. For a moment I felt like a petrified child again, too afraid to stand up for myself, but then I realized that I can't keep giving him that power. I think I will get myself some counseling to sort through these emotions properly.

Thanks again.