Hi, Sincity, and welcome to PC!
Like others who have responded here, I am still on my quest to find out who I am, though as I've gotten older, made hard choices, as well as many mistakes, I've become more comfortable with "who I am." I recognize that I have been drawn to dangerous, self-destructive behavior and attractions most of my life, been self-defeating, and limited myself...no one had to do this for me. I have allowed other people and circumstances to make the choices for me, rather than listening to my own inner voice. Finally I seem to listening to myself more and finding peace.
Patty