Freewill...I read your post earlier today and have thought a lot about your situation as the day progressed, honestly not knowing how to respond or what to say to you. First, just know I feel your pain and frustration with your son! Let me ask...Is he working at any type of job? Does he contribute to any of your expenses in any way, or does he just expect you to provide money for him? I am in grad school right now with students who are undergrad and grad as well and they all have other jobs! Many are your son's age, and I admire them for working and studying at the same time. I honestly don't know how they manage to keep up! Is your son in any kind of school or training which will prepare him to be independent? If not, I think he needs to find employment and start contributing to the expenses he is causing you.
Patty