I think that a lot of people seek therapy because they're hurting on a deep level, and then the therapist provides something which a person may never have ever had before.

So people think that, because their therapist is the first to address a specific part of them, that they have to stay with that therapist, otherwise nobody will ever care for them that way again.

Objectively speaking, it's not true. Pretty much any therapist is going to be able to address the common wounds. A good therapist will do so while keeping the client in a healthy place.

The problem is, there are people whose therapists have behaved so outrageously terribly that they should have walked out the door months ago, but because the the therapist performed the basic function of therapy first, the client is 'hooked' and too afraid to find something better, or demand something better for themselves.

The problem is, in that situation, if the client can't muster the will to leave, the therapist will not magically improve. They will continue to hurt the client. the client will continue to be hurt, and the whole thing spirals into the toilet.

I wish people could believe that there are therapists out there who don't have bizarre rubber boundaries, can treat them without hurting them, and won't cause them to become hopelessly dependent because they will never foster that level of dependence in the first place.

I honestly think the reason why people get so attached to bad therapists is because they don't realize that there genuinely are so many other people out there who could be doing a much better job.