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Old Jun 28, 2015, 07:46 PM
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My therapist is really interested in PDs, and we have had some discussions on them before, which I find interesting.

She told me that Narcissists actually feel really insecure and hide that insecurity by "putting up a front" of extreme confidence and self-worship. From reading posts from you all here, I've decided that is probably not true, haha...but still. I imagine that it must be very painful to be a Narcissist. To have endured whatever it was you suffered with as a child, and then to grow up with a certain defense mechanism that keeps you from connecting from others on a meaningful level...

And then there is the stigma. People view you as monsters. All they can focus on is your destructive potential. On the front page of PC even, it seems that there is always at least one article on "how a narcissist abuses their victims" or "signs there is a narcissist in your life", etc. But no one ever talks about the suffering that the Narcissist goes through. It's as if people think that because Narcissists can't empathize with others, they do not deserve empathy themselves.

While, I feel that that is bullpoop. I think that everyone is entitled to empathy, and that everyone deserves to be supported, loved, and cared for.

I guess my question is....do you wish that people were more willing to try to empathize with you? To see who you really are, a complex, emotive human being who is the way that they are due to circumstances completely out of their control?

Or do you not really care about having people try to understand you, as long as they respect/admire you?

I'm genuinely curious. I hope I haven't insulted anyone here. I really like all of you (especially you, Atypical )
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Thanks for this!
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