my opinion and through my work....there is no which is worse. no matter whether the person who chose suicide packs up cleans everything those left behind still have to go through finding out the person is gone and how. they still have to process the grief cycle, the preparing for cremation\burial,the actual funeral\memorial service\celebration of life or what ever the cultural background\religion dictates when a person commits suicide or dies naturally, take care of the left over death costs. theres so much that goes into what happens after someone dies that the person who commits suicide leaves their family with besides the basics of that persons bills\personal property and clean up of the home they lived in. example imagine the emotional trauma of that family member that the police requires to identify the deceased or handling the autopsy process...

something else to think about most suicide attempts do not succeed. usually what happens first is the person tried, is found and kept alive or kept alive on machines indefinitely until a family member decides they dont have any more financial means to continue keeping their loved one hooked up to all kinds of machines. and sometimes when a suicide is brought back they are worse off than when they started because sometimes they end up being taken care of those who they were trying to get away from anyway due to no one else wants the responsibility of taking care of a special needs person who can no longer take care of their self, or the courts remand the person to a state mental hospital indefinitely if their mental disorder was the cause for their suicide attempt, until the court and treatment providers can state that persons mental disorders no longer pose a threat to that persons life or others.

my suggestion to .....anyone.... who may be suicidal to contact their treatment providers or one in their location who can help them through what ever temporary problem that is causing them to think something so permanent as suicide is the answer.