As someone that has dealt with 4 suicides(3 in family 1 friend) both options suck. The second would make me mad because all that planning and yet they wouldn't reach out for help. AND even if they had it packed it still has to be gone through because what IF something they thought wouldn't mean anything to those left really would??

There is nothing a person can do to make their suicide easier on their loved ones because no matter what they will blame themselves and grieve the rest of their lives that they didn't stop it.