I feel for you, freewill and I certainly have no answers.

It's very difficult as parents to let our children lead their own lives. While our children need to know we are there for them they must be free to fly.

I am truly blessed with two grown sons. As it happens, both are married and both are members of the US Navy. But there the simularities end....they are as different as night and day. They are almost a generation apart in age.
One was on the honor roll in high school but didn't want to go on to college. My youngest could get good grades but preferred the social side of school and barely made it through high school by the seat of his pants.

I know that when I'm gone....they will grieve then they will go on to live their own lives as they see fit. I don't understand either one of them, but I love them.

I wish you all the best.