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Originally Posted by Lexa2526
Hi, there. I've been spending some time talking with my others about what it is we want out of our future in terms of career, and where we want to live. The only thing we seem to agree on is we need to move out from home. Dealing with the memories, according to our Protector, will be much easier if we're not in that house.
The problem is we can't agree on anything else. In terms of career: one wants to be a professional author, the other wants to start a business, another wants to go back to school to be a nurse. The other wants to drop everything, pack a bag and see the world. And our depressed one, well she doesn't want to be here at all.
Don't get me started on where we should move to.
It's a little frustrating because everyone wants something different, and that arguing leaves us running in circles.
My question is has anyone broached this subject with their others? Have you come to an agreement on what to do with the future? Do you have any tips on how we can come to find a common solution? I don't want to favour one alter over the other. The only one I'm not really paying attention to is our depressed one.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.  . |
with me there was never the question of whats in the future,make one decision and do that. we did it all. what I man by that is each of my alters had their own way of being, their own jobs, purposes reasons for being. this in itself dictated how and what they did when they were in control of the body. one was a musician, one was a writer, one was a teacher, one was a traveler, one was a therapist.... the list goes on.
example when the traveler was in control of the body they went to france, went to the grand canyon, went to where ever they wanted to. sometimes I would come back to the present moment and not know where I was. I would have to locate a phone or police station or a police officer. make a call back to my family who would help me get back home again. sometimes this would happen to the extent where I would discover I was living a completely separate life somewhere other than where the aware self lived.
it was just how my life was as a dissociative with DID. the questions of what to do only happened .....after....I and my alters were integrated. everything they were became me. do I continue with my chosen profession or do I go with the feelings of the others professions, do i stay put or do I honor this urge to travel. do I write or paint, bottom line was just because I was integrated doesnt mean I have to choose one thing just like before I was integrated I didnt have only one activity. my wife andI make sure that even though I am integrated we still honor all those things. I still paint, I still travel, I still teach/tutor, and yes i still have more than one home, my wife and I have our city home and we have a home\summer camping place upstate in the country, we also honor the traveler in me by planning vacations that include traveling. my wife and i feel theres no need to choose which alter was right and which alters way to follow. they were each equally important and a part of me and still are just in a different way now.