with me there was never the question of whats in the future,make one decision and do that. we did it all. what I man by t hat is each of my alters had their own way of being, their own jobs, purposes reasons for being. this in itself dictated how and what they did when they were in control of the body. one was a musician, one was a writer, one was a teacher, one was a traveler, one was a therapist.... the list goes on.

example when the traveler was in control of the body they went to france, went to the grand canyon, went to where ever they wanted to. sometimes I would come back to the present moment and not know where I was. I would have to locate a phone or police station or a police officer. make a call back to my family who would help me get back home again. sometimes this would happen to the extent where I would discover I was living a completely separate life somewhere other than where the aware self lived.

it was just how my life was as a dissociative with DID. the questions of what to do only happened .....after....I and my alters were integrated. everything they were became me. do I continue with my chosen profession or do I go with the feelings of the others professions, do i stay put or do I honor this urge to travel. do I write or paint, bottom line was just because I was integrated doesnt mean I have to choose one thing just like before I was integrated I didnt have only one activity. my wife andI make sure that even though I am integrated we still honor all those things. I still paint, I still travel, I still teach/tutor, and yes i still have more than one home, my wife and I have our city home and we have a home\summer camping place upstate in the country, we also honor the traveler in me by planning vacations that include traveling. my wife and i feel theres no need to choose which alter was right and wehich alters way to follow. they were each equally important and a part of me and still are just in a different way now.