Hello everyone,

Thank you so much for your kind replies, it's really nice to get some input from people who are familiar with these situations. It's been about a week now and even though my husband and I have talked I'm just worried nothing will change. He's a good person, takes care of me financially and is sweet in general, but emotionally he just has no clue. He has this 'sweep everything under the rug' mentality (just like his parents), which obviously is no way to handle things because they'll just end up blowing up in your face. He just can't talk/communicate about anything and it's so frustrating to me because it makes everything 100x harder than it needs to be.
I told him that he knew I'm BP when we got married and he made a commitment to me. And if he can't handle it and wants to break that well fine, but at least TRY first you know? He agreed, but I'm just worried it'll go right back to him not trying to be understanding/supportive.

Anyway to make matters more complicated I'm not from the US, I'm from Europe so I don't really have any support here. My BP has already caused one marriage to go down the drain (in a disastrous way) and I don't want that to happen again. However I'm also not staying in a relationship that is unhealthy for me.

I'm actually going on a trip back home next month, I'll be staying at least a few weeks. It will be nice to get some distance and think things over. I figured that while I'm there I can at least find a support system so that if things don't work out, I have a place to go. As long as the baby is not here yet (I'm due in January) it will be easier for me to travel. I was thinking that while I'm there, to send him a long e-mail explaining that if he's not willing to put in any effort this marriage will never work, and I need to see him take action and try before I can fully trust living with him and raising a child together. I figured maybe that way he'll have time to read it over and think about it while we have some space because talking one on one doesn't seem to work with him. What do you guys think?