How will I know when I've found him/her (I'm pansexual). I've been on dating sites; gone on a few dates, but haven't really "clicked" with anyone. I've dealt with sexual tension in many of my real-life friendships, but they were always one-sided, either me to them, or them to me.

I feel like in my quest to find the ideal mate, I need to comb the globe. That is the beauty of dating sites; you can contact people anywhere. Most of them aren't looking for long distance relationships, however, and won't return messages from people living hundreds of miles away.

I am looking for someone who is intelligent and creative, compassionate and ambitious. Someone who is so cute that it is almost impossible to deal with. Someone who understands my mental health struggles and doesn't judge me for them or think I'm fragile (I'd love to date another neurodivergent!). Someone who opens my mind to new concepts, music, books, films, life. Someone who pushes me to be a better person. Someone who is spiritual and has a personal relationship with God, but openminded. And someone with whom I can share a red-hot sexual attraction to.

Is it possible to find a person who meets all of these criteria, or will I have to make compromises? I have yet to find a person who is all of that, but then again...I haven't met everyone in the world yet. For those of you who have found your perfect match, how much did you meet him/her? How long did it take before you knew you were in love? Did you meet him/her serendipitously, or were you searching like I am?

Thank you!!