UPDATE : I can't believe this. My STBX called me last night and said he wanted to see me and talk about things. I was a bit concerned and curious so I said ok. He said he would be over soon so I waited for him to come. He calls me back about a half an hour later and said he wanted to stop and get a beer and then he would be over. I told him not to bother and that I am not interested in talking to him unless he is sober, he said he was sober and had nothing to drink until this time, I said yeah right and hung up.

He ended up coming over my house at 2:30 am knocking on my door expecting me to let him in !! ( this was 3 1/2 hours later than when he called to say he would be over )

I am not stupid, I know he went to the bar and drank alot before he came here. He thinks he can fool me but he is not too bright I guess.

I turned my phone off and made sure the door was locked tight and never answered it, he finally left quietly.

Obviously he isn't thinking clearly as this is the whole reason why I am divorcing him in the first place! He thinks he can just run around and act like a selfish teenager and do whatever he wants and when he wants. He has been portraying this image really bad in the past 4 months. What the heck does he think marriage is anyway?? He thinks I am controlling him when i say I won't tolerate his behaviour. Well I don't know about the rest of you out there but in marriage there are some boundaries am I right? Well one of my boundaries is that a married man needs to act like a married man and that means you don't run around all night long in the bars without your wife, but that is what he chooses to do.

Then he comes home snockered and acts defiant and stupid and passes out.

I told him If you want to act like a single person then I will grant you your wish, so I did.
I am glad right now that he doesn't live here anymore. That is the kind of stress I have gotten rid of. But I question his love for me ( as he said) how can this be love??

Terry