My T holds my hand, responds to my emails, and hugs me after every session, but that is not the primary way she provides comfort. I am comforted by knowing how much she cares about me, and how she is consistently there for me. We have a real relationship and that is comforting to me. Probably it's too soon for you to feel that way about your new T. It takes time. Can you share with her your feelings and thoughts about wanting more comfort from her? Even if she won't provide it the way you want, discussing it may be productive. Grieving is a process, and you will feel differently over time.