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Originally Posted by rainbow8
My T holds my hand, responds to my emails, and hugs me after every session, but that is not the primary way she provides comfort. I am comforted by knowing how much she cares about me, and how she is consistently there for me. We have a real relationship and that is comforting to me. Probably it's too soon for you to feel that way about your new T. It takes time. Can you share with her your feelings and thoughts about wanting more comfort from her? Even if she won't provide it the way you want, discussing it may be productive. Grieving is a process, and you will feel differently over time.  |
I'm okay with not getting comfort the way I want. But shouldn't I be able to find some sort of comfort in her? After 11 weeks? It worries me. I like her. She's a good T and a nice person, but how can I get to the painful stuff if I don't find her comforting? She doesn't wrinkle her brow, talk softer, lean forward, etc. She just there smiling. She told me I have to trust that she cares, but trust isn't something I'm willing to give much of anymore.
This whole situation isn't fair to me or her. I shouldn't be with her. I'm supposed to be with ex-T. I wasn't finished. There was very little closure (the book and the letter). I didn't graduate or was referred. I was tossed out and had to quickly find someone to help me survive. I have exra baggage now for this relationship, and she doesn't get to see me at a normal/stable place. My ex-T is ruining even this for me. It's just not fair.