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Old Jun 29, 2015, 05:17 PM
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My T doesn't do anything in particular to comfort me. It took me a LOT longer than 11 weeks-- more like a year and a half or more-- to start being able to feel comforted just by her presence, and to be better able to comfort myself. Truthfully, I'm wary of Ts who do a lot of touch or whose boundaries aren't very conservative. From what I see out there, those tend to be the Ts who burn out or screw up.

It took some time, but things work amazingly now with my T. I find that my "stuff" usually stays contained in the room, and I feel her to be much warmer than I used to. My T encourages me to be open about the relationship, so I've told her many times that I found her to be cold or that I was angry at her for not comforting me. All of those conversations have been useful.

Edited to add: I do have people in my outer life that I can go to for comfort, though I had to learn how to do that, too. I tend to keep everything inside & put on a happy/brave face.
Thanks for this!
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