(((Scarlet)))
I don't really have any ideas for you, but I just thought I would share, as I seem to be coming from the opposite side on this...
Therapy has made me realize how good I am at comforting myself with fantasies. I could always easily imagine T holding me, or even talking to me and have it work just as well. Lately though I've been feeling the need for more real-life comfort. It's painful... My real life support system outside of therapy is still very new and very much 'under construction'.

My T does realize though. He's offered to go to twice weekly sessions while I'm struggling. And I can email whenever I need to, though he's usually too busy to reply right away.