I had to specifically tell my T" I need you to say you care about me and don't want me to starve/purge/hurt myself/die"...not because she didn't feel those things but because her view of relationships is so much healthier than mine that she ( in one of her larger screw ups as a T) thought I " would already know that"
Nope T. Nope. My mom TOLD me to kill myself. Repeatedly. Part of me worries everyone wishes I'd get out of their life.
I still have to remind her to.tell me. To spell things out. That I'm not being intentionally obtuse but truly struggle with this.

Also my T does not like to say too much on email but she is open to checking in via phone. Maybe your T would do that.