He has admitted he went to the army to get away from me and the bipolar because he didnt want to stay and help me. He was running away he said because he was too lazy to do right by me. Now he says he has become a man and started to put his family first and regrets leaving us like that for his selfish reasons. I have heard """i'm really gonna try this time "" about 20 times throughout the marriage...usually lasts a couple of weeks....I am praying that it really sticks this time.