Hiya Hun! Nice to meet you!

I can tell you from my military life experience that one thing is very important to miltary men...it's taking care of the family. I can guarantee you that when his troop buddies started to find out that he left his family like he did, he started to get shunned because it is viewed very negativily by the guys. Why you ask is this? Well if this guy were in your troop and he showed this much cowardice to his own children,,,do you think he can handle himself when he has your life in his hands...NOPE!

Hense, they would have started to lose respect for him and therefore he would have seen the light about loyalty to his family as well as himself and his country and just how important it really all is.

To be completely honest, I really have to commend you for staying with him in those conditions! My goodness I would have packed up and run myself, all kids in tow, to where ever else I could have found just to get away from those rats!!! Ewwww Maybe he used your illness as an excuse to run from those conditions as well???

In any case, he has learned how to be a man now and how to provide for his family. Now you can work on you and your marriage. This should be the one good thing that came from this fiasco. If at all possible, now I am not sure how severe your BP is, but I do recommend you try to make some sort of income as well however possible. It certainly doesn't do any good being completely dependant on one person for anyone. If at all possible, please work on bettering yourself professionally...regardless of how much better a husband and father he has become, he is a soldier now in active war time, anything could happen and a woman should always have something to fall back on, just in case. Then again, maybe I'm spewing and you could be doctor for all I know! LOL

Good luck hunny I look forward to hearing more of your story. You sound like a very lovely girl.

ABT