To be honest, I didn't know that long hugs and "one of my favourite clients" are red flags...

But then I'm not sure what *are* normal therapist boundaries.

I think your T cares. The only worrying thing (for me at least) is IF she is (1) inconsistent or (2) is loosening boundaries. (2) is bad because you can be very hurt if she tightens them back up. So I personally would ask if she'll one day tighten boundaries back up.

I had a T who would give me extra time and when I worried about it, she would tell me not to caretake her and it was her job to mind the boundaries and determine how much time I needed.

Then she got supervision/peer consultation/ another T called her out and then she suddenly said no more extra time unless emergency. That was very jarring and I felt punished though she initially said she was the one who should control the boundaries.

So I worry a bit that your T might tighten boundaries back up and I hope that isn't the case.