I guess the thing is, if people haven't read it all they might just say 'oh this is another post about transference' and respond as if you're having run of the mill problems.


The things I highlighted in my first post are the things which I think fall outside most typical therapeutic relationships. Hugs are fine. Lingering hugs... seem odd.


I don't think there is anything wrong with being happy that your therapist cares for you. It's awesome that you have a therapist who does, and that you feel that connection. If she says it is genuine, and you feel it is, then it in all likelihood is.


I wonder if it would be useful to you and her to have a discussion around the relationship. However, I do think it's not ideal for you to blame yourself for anything you have done. You're the client. You are in her care. It's up to her to make sure the dynamic stays healthy. Not you.