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Originally Posted by QuietMind
Wow, that's a good record with SH. Really is, to me.
I hope the desire to SH ebbs as you heal.
I really hope my T is right regarding the above statement on SH lol.
Yup, insecure attachment makes things complicated, I don't have a secure attachment style either but there's a lot of neuropsychology stuff on brain plasticity. About how one can earn secure attachment.
I really like Attachment Girl's explanation of attachment and transference.
I can relate to repeatedly looking at T's online profiles haha. I figure I'll talk about it and the transference in time.
Looking at photos and listening to people who sound like her sure beats SH hands down.  |
I'll look at that link haha
And I wasn't always that good with my self harm. I wish I had I rally recording of her voice, but I don't. Just a few photos. And of course, Ellen Pompeo (she looks like my T so it's kinda close???) and this one particular photo of Cara Delevingne someone else who looks like my T if she was 20-25. So that also works. And I can save those without guilt.
I also like to reply moments in therapy (hugs, hand holdings, etc) in my head, then of course other fantasies I make up. I'll fantasize that she will hold me, like in her lap... Play with my hair. Or cuddle with me in a bed. It soothes me. Not sure if the extra fantasies are 100% healthy, since I want them to happen and they can't. Although some people on this forum have given me hope that it could [emoji23][emoji23][emoji23] but their relationships with their T are usually NOT healthy... The freaking struggle!!!
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