Hi Matt,

If you're making most of the effort and not having people reach out to you, make much of an effort, check in on you, show an interest, let you know you're appreciated I can completely get how you may feel unneeded

Although, depending on some of your friends, if they have problems initiating things this could be saying that you're very much needed/far from being a burden. Perhaps sometimes they're relying on you to initiate things, they have problems, they depend on you eventually doing that, they value that/you and you give them so much more than you think.
If that's the case though, would be nice if they could tell you something along those lines though, right??!!
But for that you might have to tell them how you're feeling. Maybe some will make excuses, maybe some will get defensive, but bottom line you need a bit more back from them right?? So maybe the only way to go will be in telling them that, and perhaps tell them some of the things you'd like from them.

And for friends that you find aren't really as much friends........who basically can't/won't be bothered, who don't want to put in any extra effort..........well that doesn't need to be about you, that can easily be about them instead.
You might decide to hang onto them accepting that they're more friends that are only going to be there in certain circumstances, or you have to make extra effort with but who you can enjoy some things with..........or you might decide to cut them off in favour of even just a few people you can gradually call real friends/people in your life you can build real friendships with. No need to make immediate decisions there though.

And........what I should have said at the beginning..........welcome to PC!!!!
Glad you've felt able to share with us!! And if you need understanding, support, advice........well here's a great place to be.

Alison