I would say my T (female, no bio kids) was not super helpful with my miscarriage and subsequent high risk pregnancy. I've seen her for years and find her to be a comfort in general, but I was disappointed with what I got out of therapy after my loss and during my pregnancy. I almost wonder if it is the sort of thing that there really isn't much a T can do, you just have to get through it. In your case, though, it sounds like you aren't even getting the little comfort I got from my T (she wasn't rude or anything). Maybe a switch is in order.

Good luck in T and with the pregnancy!