When I initially read this post without reading your other one with the explanation it didn't make any sense to me & had no idea how to answer it.....so I'm including your other post that holds the overall picture of what actually happened...as statements taken out of context can't be analyzed.
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My dad was online and active on whatsapp and was ignoring my messages (whatsapp shows this)
I just sent a few messages saying hi and asking how he is and sent a lovely picture of sunset.
whatsapp showed he was online still then went offline and ignored my messages.
I then messaged him this which he now claims is passive aggressive and made him very angry.
"Ok you saw me then went offline Im sorry I was only saying hi "
Please would someone help me identify if this is passive aggressive as my dad accuses me of. If it is passive aggressive I will apologise. It was not mny intention to be passive aggressive I was just communicing that whatsapp shows that he ignores my messages when he uses whatsapp and disappears offline without acknowledging me.
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Actually not sure your comment was passive aggressive but it does assume maybe wrongly that your father actually saw you online & actually saw your messages. A lot of times our computers show us online when we aren't even sitting at the computer & wouldn't possibly even hear that we have received a message.....we come back to the computer & log off without even looking......so you were assuming that your father was sitting there at his computer at the time you sent the messages.
He might have felt that this message you are asking us about was trying to make him feel guilty for something he didn't even know was going on. That's NOT actually passive aggressive but you do need to be careful about assumptions & think of all the possibilities rather than narrow thinking that gives you only one option of what you think is actually happening.....that has more to do with lack of awareness.
I'm sure your Dad would have responded if he had actually seen your message. That's the difficulty with online communication....we REALLY don't know what the other person is doing at the time we are messaging them.