Ahhh,yes,instantly recognizable! Will sound crazy,but is true.
Order following book: "Addicted to Unhappiness",by Martha and
William J.Pieper (both docs). Now your conscious mind might
say,'don't be ridiculous', but it is the UNCONSCIOUS that is
creating the NEED for misery. It is a mistake we made when we
were children,which becomes our 'default' position; and if the
misery is not there,one way or another we will seek it out!