I don't tend to think much about how men and women think differently, in fact some of those kinds of thoughts I have always dismissed as stereotypes.

But in therapy today, my male CBT T seemed to be struggling to understand me based on my gender. I've had male T's who completely understand the need for connection, feeling cared for etc. and didn't see it as a male/female thing.

I'll try to explain: CBT T has put up some boundaries lately and it is setting off very needy feelings in myself. He mentioned something odd, that men tend to be dismissive of those that hurt them (like a therapist.) He didn't elaborate on what he thought women do instead (get hurt feelings??)

I felt like he was genuinely trying to understand me today. I mean he really seemed to be trying and just not getting it.

I have very rarely in my life felt like this-- that a guy I know and like is being stupid in a way only a man can be. My apologies to the men out there who have emotional intelligence. What I just said sounds horrific even to me. But that is the only way I can describe his reaction to me.

If I thought I just had a moron as a therapist I'd move on but I don't think that's it. He seemed to be a little distressed by not understanding, "Coach me"…"Help me understand" etc littered his conversation.

Anyone ever have a gender gap issue in therapy????