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Default Jun 30, 2015 at 09:11 PM
 
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Originally Posted by JustShakey View Post
I don't know if it's entirely a gender difference. My male T is really good at this sort of stuff - certainly a lot better than I am and definitely better than previous (female) T.
Honestly it makes sense that your T struggles with this kind of stuff given the confusing push-pull-ish boundary instructions he gave you regarding the emailing...
The comment about men being dismissive of those who hurt them screams 'unresolved issue' to me. I don't think men are any more dismissive of being hurt than women, they just maybe deal with it differently.
Most male T's that I've had have been as emotionally attuned as any female I've known. CBT T has always seemed a stereotype of a "typical guy".

The dismissive issue comment I read as his recollecting how angry male patients respond to him vs female patients. Male patients tending to have an "eff you" attitude vs female sadness over a loss of connection.

He's tough to figure out.
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