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Originally Posted by AllHeart
I can't imagine watching someone enduring an hour long grueling session, asking for a hug from T and then having T say no. A T should be able to give hugs at least sometimes. I think at some point, it becomes in humane not to.
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That is exactly what happened to me. That said T1 didn't have what I would call hard boundaries. He had inconsistent boundaries which was the hardest thing of all. I think the most important thing is that the boundaries are consistent and clear from the start. Inconsistent boundaries can cause more harm than either hard or soft boundaries.