when someone notices they have parts of self the brain naturally focuses on that. as a result of this they pay more attention to these parts. this is a good thing because now that a person knows they switch into these normal parts of self it can be controlled. example when I notice I am slipping into my parent part at work I take a step back, breath and remind myself I am at work and that co worker is not my child that I need to parent. so what they are doing something in a way I would not, they are not my child and they are not me. then I smile and breath and resume with my responsible adult mind not the parent or child mindset. another example when I notice I am slipping into my normal child part (someone has said or done something that makes me want to throw a temper tantrum for example) I breath and remind myself I am at work, I can not scream, yell and throw a temper tantrum. I need to be the responsible adult self and continue doing my work appropriately

AmandaLouise,

Thanks loads for your reply above. That makes sense to me!

Peaches