Thank you. I am not quite ready to stop completely seeing them yet- only in that I have not had enough memory yet to be certain it was my dad. (Though I know it was really). I don't want them to manipulate me into not believing it again. If I had something more definitive as a memory, I would confront. For now, I don't want to alert them to anything being wrong. But I'm minimising contact and only seeing with my husband etc it trying to see mum and not dad etc. thanks for your replies.