Yeah, I'm a poster child for those clients Puzzlebug speaks of.... in fact, the title of this thread, I've said that very same thing. I'm REALLY trying to work through it, but I definitely learned how damaging a therapist suddenly changing boundaries can be. Then to let me find out on my own.
For three months after that, two sessions per week, there was NO therapy. I shut down. I'm still very hurt by it, and not as trusting, but we are slowly integrating therapy back in again. But....I don't think I will be able to trust her like I did before. I'm constantly scanning the horizon so to speak, anticipating something else changing. Is it healthy? Probably not. But I'm notorious for feeling defeated and giving up in life...and after the amount of time I have in with this therapist, I am trying not to let myself give up too easily. That's my MO. And even though she hurt me, somehow I still have a glimmer of hope.... although I really do miss the connection I felt with her before. I hope I can find it again. Attachment, yeah, I have that.... but still working on connection. I trusted her somehow to be the one person in my life who wouldn't hurt me, and she hurt me considerably.
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