jinzing,
My sincerest apologies for learning how to broach difficult subjects at your expence. From what I've seen so far this is a place full of people who will do their best to be real and honest in everybodies best interest. I'll bet they'd bend over backwards to try to find a way to make things work. I hope you won't be scared off too soon because of my or anyone elses blounder regarding this difficult subject.
sincerely ,
Downsolong