Thread: How do you talk about yourself?
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Old Jul 02, 2015, 07:00 AM
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What is it about the feedback that is tossing you into the defensive stance? Fear of criticism could be family of origin and worthy of therapeutic work through. Are they judgy or is it lingering from your life?
The fellow who had me feeling defensive reminds me of this post I made a while back.
http://forums.psychcentral.com/perso...ersations.html

He makes snide comments to me outside of the group. He's kind of an ***. As far as I'm concerned, my choices are to stop going to the group because of him (I've only attended twice), or keep going and try to focus on the other 5 people in the group. http://forums.psychcentral.com/relat...c-journal.html

I can brag, and be arrogant. Those qualities are counterproductive. I want to have real, quite, self-confidence and I would like to work on being more supportive of myself in public. Or at least not act defensive and undermine myself with comments like "I know I'm not perfect."
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