in general most people (even normal/non DID people) find it offensive when some one calls them endearments ...unless that person is someone they are extremely close to like a close family member or ones own child. its just not normally done..my therapist taught this to one of my alters by telling them to go to a public place and watch how people talk to each other and what their relationships are to each other. in general people dont go around saying things like dear, lovey, sweets, snookums and other terms of endearments.

here in my location its a bit creepy for some people to hear because its actually a grooming technique that pedophiles use with children they are trying to chum up to and sometimes domestic violence people use in abundance as a way of showing the public everything is fine while intimidating their victim who must also go along with these endearments or face t heir abusers wrath.

my suggestion talk with your treatment provider. they can help you balance when and where it can be ok for you to shower endearments on people in your life.