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Originally Posted by CopperStar
When someone really cares about you, they act like it, and this also includes caring about your feelings.
If he knows (and he does, trust me) that it makes you feel uneasy, anxious, insecure, jealous, etc when he frequently mentions it, and he does it anyway, not only does that mean he doesn't care about your feelings, but it also means he is getting a kick out of making you anxious and jealous.
He's playing games. This is a red flag that you are getting early in the relationship. Your choice on whether or not you choose to put up with it.
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Hmm.... Thanks for your response and input. I do think sometimes it's a bit innate for all of us to want to make the other person a little bit jealous to get reassurance they care about us.... I'm not entirely sold on the red flag theory.
I'm not sure how her kissing up comments would've made me jealous-- I do think he meant well and just has no idea what I need from him in this regard.
The biggest problem I see is the topic seems to be completely off limits for me to bring up. Even if he meant no harm it still makes me wonder why he insists on making the situation palatable for me (which will NEVER happen.... There is a reason women don't pass around boyfriends).... But for me to ask for that reassurance is somehow out of the question..... ?!?