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Originally Posted by Brown Owl
I'm a 7, I can easily function without her. I'm wondering what made you go up to a 10? I found the attachment much harder with my ex-T, I might say I was painfully attached. Now I look back on it I think it was because I felt insecure in the relationship, with my new T I am much more secure, so I think I am calmly attached, I don't worry much about my therapy with her, I am less anxious about it in between appoinments.
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I think the attachment style I have with my T is an insecure one... You probably have a more secure style. You're lucky to have found a less anxious and less painful attachment. Mine, is not that way anymore. I'm really anxious about her abandoning me, rejecting me, etc.
Time made it go up to a 10 for me. She literally just has all the qualities I wanted/want in a mother figure, I didn't get. It toke me a long time to trust her, but when I did, the more I opened up and the more spent time with her, it just got more and more intense.
It wasn't a 10 before, but since the hugging and hand holding, it's now officially a 10. Before then, it was about a 8-9... Which was still pretty attached, but I think now since the physical touch started, I'm at a 10 because it's enabling my transference. And I'm fantasizing about her being my mother, holding me, etc. so I considered a 10 to be, unhealthy because it's interfering with my life and to the point where, I probably need help with it.
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