Most people, even the ones who think they have a good therapist, are so enmeshed in therapy they can't see how harmful it really might be.

it's pretty obvious to those on the outside. It's pretty obvious to me looking back on my bad therapy that he didn't really know what he was doing. Easy to look back and say that though. I didn't realize it at the time and I think that happens to a lot of people.

I think that a lot of people are deluded into thinking they are being helped and so they don't see the reality of the harm they are in. They choose to stay because it doesn't seem damaging.

So it isn't really about being in an "abusive" relationship most of the time. It's about believing you are being helped by a professional whose job it is to help you when in fact they have no clue what they're doing even if they mean well or whatever.