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Originally Posted by Ididitmyway
....One does, however, have a critical thinking ability and the ability to choose to follow one's common sense or someone else's persuasion. One may not be able to make the right choice right away, but eventually they will have an opportunity to do so. Will they use that opportunity or not is again their choice.
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Extracting oneself from bad therapy is clouded further if the client is encouraged to surrender her judgment, to "trust" etc. And I've seen PC members here chastised, or chastise themselves for the "pattern" of "running away" which they're then commanded to use therapy to correct.
All that theory and all that metaphor can distort what actually occurs: a relationship between two equals. Rudeness is rudeness, control is control, fostering idolization or destructive dependence is just that.
And so what if the client has some pattern she hopes to break. That doesn't mean the therapist isn't harmful. The two are independently working parts.
By the way, one of my co-therapists SHRIEKED at me: "you're packing up your toys and going home, and that's JUST what you do in relationships!" At the time I was going to suspend therapy because I'd lost my job. Please. Unfortunately I got another job and spent several more months with those vainglorious tyrants.