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Originally Posted by missbella
Extracting oneself from bad therapy is clouded further if the client is encouraged to surrender her judgment, to "trust" etc. And I've seen PC members here chastised, or chastise themselves for the "pattern" of "running away" which they're then commanded to use therapy to correct.
All that theory and all that metaphor can distort what actually occurs: a relationship between two equals. Rudeness is rudeness, control is control, fostering idolization or destructive dependence is just that.
And so what if the client has some pattern she hopes to break. That doesn't mean the therapist isn't harmful. The two are independently working parts.
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It's all true. But I don't think I disputed any of that. So I am not sure what is your point here. I didn't dispute that people are encouraged to trust their therapists. But whether they choose to act on that encouragement or not is again their choice.
As far as our patterns and the fact that they have nothing to do with the therapists' behavior, I completely agree that the two are independently working parts. My "patterns", however real they may be, are not an excuse for therapists to use harmful methods, and vice verse, the therapist's harmful methods are not a "prove" that my own behavior is always innocent and has no room for improvement. As I pointed out in my previous posts it is not an "either or" issue meaning that only one party can be in the wrong. As I've said, my behavior belongs to me, my therapists' behavior belongs to them. Those are two separate things.