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almedafan, that sounds like a very intense session. How very dedicated and caring that your T agreed to do this one timer with you and your brother. You know your T did that for you because he cares so much about you, don't you?

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Yes I am now feeling that he does care I've been with him about a year and a half and it has taken me this long to feel that he cares rather than just hear about it. It means more to me than he'll ever know that we've gotten to point. I have very few people in my life who I can say that I feel they care about me.

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I could easily see a T not wanting to do that since it is a one time thing only and lots of potential for opening cans of worms and solving nothing.

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I was wondering about this because it was a one time thing. He put me at ease with it though. I mentioned it to him way in advance so he could think about it.

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It was certainly amazing how your brother opened up and said stuff instead of just sitting there, feeling shy, and not comfortable enough to get to some issues.

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I was surprised too but I am realizing now that my brother did tell my dad he was coming with me. So my guess is that dad made sure he was in his camp...it is odd because my brother flip flops way too much. When dad hurts him he believes what I do about most everything. Then dad smooths it over with him and his back on his side again.

It is a frustrating and never ending cycle. I'm glad my T heard him the way I usually hear him...

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I cringed when I read what your father said to you about taking your husband's side in a divorce.

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Isn't that outrageous for a father to say to his daughter? and when there is no reason for it other than my dad thinks my husband walks on water and apparently he still harbors resentment against me for the past (teenage years stuff). I was floored. I'm not doing anything that would cause me to lose my child or be labeled an unfit mother. This really sickens me that he said this and my brother didn't defend me with my T. He just went on to say how I should consider myself lucky that I have my husband because the guys I used to date were a bunch of idiots.

I shake my head at this comment from both of them.

As for the support system, you are right. It just takes me a long time to trust people. I do have my best friend back home and some new friends here. We'll see what else develops...